Micah, about 12 minutes old - photo by Ben Scott-Killian
Micah James Lawrence
March 16, 2012 at 11:27 am
9 lbs
21 inches (for those that are counting)
He was born in the tub.
A pisces through and through – like his big brother – born on the same day, three years ago.
It was an amazing birth. Mary was incredibly courageous, I am forever humbled by her strength.
We could not have done it without the skilled midwifery of Gail Murphy and her assistant Jill Bulow, our lovely friends and house mates, Merrit Mitchell and Ben Scott-Killian, and loving mother Rose and sister Lena.
Thank you all for your well wishes, prayers, quiches, and champagne.
It’s not that our house is small. I think it is rather large. Yeah, ok – there are two kids sleeping in what should be a laundry room, and the master bedroom has no closets, doors, and barely fits a queen size bed. But how much more room do we need? What would we do with it?
I always think of other people, the people living in Russia and Africa. Those people, my ancestors. What they do with space is marvelous. Entire generations piled on top of each other.
If anything, these restrictions in size help us to keep the house tidy.
But that is just it. When Mary is about to give birth and the kids need to eat like all day long, and they need to play with everything and sometimes they put stuff away, when they are asked nicely, and if I am convincing, and if I am playing LCD Soundsytem, to you know… get them in the mood, then (maybe) they will help me clean.
I am not complaining. Seriously. But what I have learned about myself these past three days is that three days is my capacity for domesticity. Right now, all I want to do is go to the bar.
There is still a bottle of rye in the cupboard from the winter. If I was Mary, I would have drunken that shit a long ass time ago. And actually, I just finished it. Mary and the kids, finally asleep. Mary taking her much needed rest so that (by God) if she does go into labor tonight, she will have the energy for it.
But all there is to do all day in this house is cook and clean.
Oh, and enjoy the coziness of love that we have created here, in our house. I enjoy it so much here that I didn’t notice until after I put the kids to bed that I had yet to get out of my PJ’s (working from home) and did not step outside.
When I count my blessings, my house is definitely one of them. My house and all the wondrous people in it.
My mom, Linda Lawrence liked to take pictures. She was good at capturing her boys together or alone, contemplative or joyful. The really good ones, she would blow up to an 8×10 and frame.
Linda had a Minolta XD-11 and she taught me how to use it.
I loved advancing the film after I took a picture. The sound matched the feel, which I thought was awesome. Heavy cool metal in my small hands; a big responsibility paired with the magic it produced had me hooked from first use.
In my notebook, I logged how I shot the nearby nature preserve of Harms Woods at 200 with f5, then again at f5.6, then again at 125 f.6, and so on. Later, when I developed the film, I would know how to shoot that scene, with that lighting, that camera, that film, and that moment, flawlessly. (Or at least that was the idea.)
She gave me the XD when she upgraded to the Minolta Maxxum 7000. Her new camera had an LCD screen, and a fully automatic setting – I thought it was a stunning machine and knew it was not to be trifled with, mostly because it was all black and had an LCD screen.
She always shot in manual mode – and made me do the same.
Linda Lawrence, 32 - taken by me at age 11
I was always too nervous about dropping the camera to get the focus right – as you can see from above. I rarely thought about composition. (Why, oh why did this beautiful lady need all that head room? She looks like she is sinking!) In the early days, I felt the pressure of having to get the shot right the first or second time, or else I wouldn’t be able to at all.
My mom was a perfectionist. She curated the photos she took for our photo albums with a heavy hand, teaching me to be frugal with what we decide to commemorate. Her meticulously kept photo albums were the final touch to her artwork, though she never said that she was an artist. But to me, she always was. Linda was a designer, a writer, and took all those amazing photos. She worked with artists, and had beautiful artwork all around the house.
Yesterday, while driving Elouise to Sunday school, she told me that when she grows up, she is going to be really good at Instagram, and I believe she will.
Together, we look through my Instagram feed and she double taps the photos she likes (♥)and scrolls past the ones she does not. We talk about what she does and does not like in these photos. I think this is teaching her discernment and engagement. Sometimes, Elouise asks me to make a comment in a photo and tells to me what she would like to say to the photographer. Then a couple of minutes later, a reply comes in. I read it to Elouise and her face lights up.
She gets that she has just made a connection with the person that took the photo that she just liked.
These are the first photo’s Elouise has ever taken, they are shot with an iPhone 4s.
What is most captivating about these photos to me is her intent on capturing the bits of her day, from her perspective.
Sometimes, there is all kinds of stuff around the things that she sees most important, but that it doesn’t matter – she goes for the shot anyway. She is isolating one thing, either on it’s own or in it’s environment and elevating it to the status of “subject”, whether it’s a jar of honey, a helmut, or her brother.
She is an artist, she said so herself one day. Words, I would love to utter so confidently.
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